A former escort who slept with more than 10,000 men has revealed what her clients really wanted.
Gwyneth Montenegro lifted the lid on her life as one of Australia’s highest earning sex workers in which she cashed in $2,000 (£1,150) a night from her punters.
But following her 12 years in the sex industry she said most men didn’t turn to her for “hardcore kinky sex” but because they felt threatened in their own relationships.
Gwyneth, 39, who grew up as a devout Christian before she was gang raped by up to eight men when she was a teenage girl, said a lot of her clients wanted to “feel masculine again”.
She said: “I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this.”However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated.
“They don’t know what it is to be a man anymore. They’ve lost their way.” She said she is glad to be away from the industry and now teaches women how to “understand” men and make the most of their relationships.
In 2014, she told she became hooked on her champagne and cocaine lifestyle afforded by her romps – 90 per cent of which were with married men.
She said a combination of being ruthlessly bullied throughout her childhood and having seriously low self esteem sent her spiralling down to the dark depths of the sex industry.
Previously she told Mirror Online: “At school I was bullied because I was very shy and introverted person – I was an easy target.
“I also had very low self esteem at the time, so a combination of those two made me feel not too good about myself. I was just a normal person at home down your street, the girl next door type who you wouldn’t expect at all to be an escort.”
“But at the time, all I wanted to do was to make a lot of money, so then coupled with my low self esteem it naturally led me to the adult entertainment industry.”
Slept with Over 10,000 Men
While many of her friends became doctors and lawyers, in her 12 year stint from lap dancing to becoming an escort, Gwyneth managed to sleep with 10,091 men and kept a journal recording every single one.
She said: “I journalised it – it sort of started as a bit of a joke, I thought I’d write down my experiences to help me cope with it.
“It’s not something I set out to do but the cocaine and champagne high life is very addictive – then all of a sudden 12 years of your life is gone, just like that.”
Men Don’t Cheat If They Get Sex in Marriage
Her clients were described as mainly ‘white collar businessmen’ and although she added that around 90 per cent of them were married, Gwyneth claims she doesn’t feel guilty as she ‘probably saved their marriages’.
“It’s simple – men do not cheat if they are getting all the sex they want in the marriage.”
“Just because men get married, they don’t turn off that part of them and if the woman does not put out for a long time, men can’t turn off their biological desire to have sex.”
“As one of my clients put it ‘I love my wife so much I’m so in love with her but we don’t have sex, I only have sex three times a year and I’m a red blooded man I can’t deal with that’.”
“Men don’t cheat because they can, they cheat because they are satisfying their biological desire – this is not Pretty Woman – men don’t leave their wife for an escort.”
It wasn’t long before Gwyneth had millionaires queueing up to wine and dine her and treat her to what she considered a glamorous lifestyle – while she told her parents she earned her small fortune from modelling.
She coyly admits to her friends at parties that one of her best ever clients in terms of performance, was actually an 84-year-old man.
Gwyneth said: “A couple of years into my career I honed my craft – it’s not just about the sex when working as an escort – it’s also being able to meet client’s fantasies and also be a companion as well and be a good listener.
“You’d do the simple weekend escort dates, the two day dirty weekenders, where they would take you to five star restaurants, get glammed up in beautiful dresses – that’s the glamorous side of the industry – the good part.
Loneliness is the Price You Pay as an Escort
“Sometimes we’d rack up $2,000 a night for dinner and champagne, it was a successful life but it came at a high personal price. I was very lonely and isolated, I only had a handful of friends.
“You shut off from society – you’re living this double life as a secret, one minute you’re a normal girl next door type and then the other side you’re wearing luxury dresses and sexy lingerie – it’s the ultimate double life.”
But there was a darker side to Gwyneth’s profession, she ended up becoming hooked on cocaine and alcohol, doing the drugs at least five times per week.
She added: “I would attract the white collar workers, the people who had more money, so I was exposed to cocaine for the first time in my early to mid 20s and I thought why not?!
“I got the biggest high – it was the best coke that money could by with these multi millionaire clients and I really enjoyed it.
“One night of experimenting of coke turned into about 6 to 8 months of being on coke and speed, it was 5 days a week.”
Published 10,000 Men and Counting Book
It was around that time that Gwyneth was involved in a terrible car crash and coming inches from death made her realise she needed to escape her seedy lifestyle.
So while in hospital, she came clean and told her parents the full truth and after recovering, she took up flying lessons where she now works full-time as a commercial pilot.
She said: “After the car crash I realised we only live once and I’m just going to go for it and give it ago. I was able to give back to my parents for being so understanding – they could be proud of me for the first time.”
Despite keeping her former profession a secret from her colleagues, Gwyneth has now written a self-published book appropriately titled 10,000 Men and Counting.
But is the 36-year-old now looking to settle down with a special someone?
“Maybe I might look for someone when I’m in my 40s, I’m not in a rush as if I’ve learned anything from my time as an escort I want to take every day as it comes – as that’s what life’s about.”